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Aug-19: Why You Might Afraid to Be Open With Your Partner or Others Aug-12: 2 Secrets to Peace, Joy and Keeping Your Frequency High Self-judgment is the way the wounded self tries to control us into doing what we "should" do, what is "right".
The wounded self tells us that if we do what we should do, then we can control how others feel about us.
Because, after all, our goal is to raise them to become happy and healthy adults.
As we progress in today’s post we will focus on the question Admittedly, the process begins with us.
Following are a few examples of invalidating statements (these are the comments we do not want to say to our kids and teens): “You’re being ridiculous; there’s no reason to be nervous/angry/scared/sad.” “She/He is sooo sensitive.” “Oh my gosh, you’re crying/getting mad/refusing to talk again?! Do you notice yourself in any of these statements or behaviors?
One example of mindful breathing is square breathing (#6 on the “Mindfulness for Kids” list). Name your goals and keep them in mind during difficult episodes.
Once we are validating and calm, then the child has the space to become effective at regulating their own emotion.