Relationship questions to ask while dating
I am 49 years old, and have always been very responsible, and I am not impulsive. Why cannot people understand that one can find happiness again, even if it has come so quickly?How do I make this easier for everyone, even though it really has nothing to do with any of them.I have dealt with my late husbands death (I saw a grief councillor, and I spoke to all our friends and family and anyone who would listen, ad nauseum. My son refuses to go for councelling, and said that if i continue to see this person, I will lose him as a son.(His father used to use threatening behaviour with me, when I disagreed with him.) My younger son is happy with my prospective partner, and I am respectful and aware of the effects of having multiple partners coming through my front door, (and bed). He has been phoning my family and friends, and has got everyone jumping to conclusions and discussing my private life without knowing all the facts.While it would be easy to maintain my professional objectivity, what remains with me that is fodder for this post is how deeply and profoundly the concepts presented touch on my own journey.Married at 28, with a history of multiple relationships prior, widowed at 40, following a 12 year “paradoxical marriage,” I have been ostensibly single for nearly 16 years, with the exception of a few short term relationships and friends with benefits interactions.How do I do it with diplomacy so as not to alienate anyone either??? On a scale of 1-10, how much do you matter to yourself?Were you, like many people, taught to put others first, as if somehow that makes you more virtuous, loveable and just plain simply, a better person?
I am a believer, based on my own personal and professional perspective that I need to clear the detritus of previous encounters in order to build anew.
The biggest joy has been watching men’s faces as they are truly listened to and appreciated for their willingness to share. Don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t go well at first.