Psychology in dating
In fact, the number one reason people use Tinder is for entertainment, not finding a relationship like you might expect.
Tinder expert Elisabeth Timmermans, Ph D, found in her research that looking for love was actually the fourth most common reason people were on the app, following amusement, curiosity, and socialization.
On many dating apps, matching with someone results in bright colors, upbeat noises, and maybe even dazzling lights. "When you're playing a slot machine, the machine will tell you when you've won with ringing bells and flashing lights," Adam Alter, a social psychologist at New York University, said in the documentary.
"And a lot of the apps we use now have elements of that built in, even when they aren't really about games."As one Tinder user in the documentary said, getting a match feels like a little rush of adrenaline. Matching with someone on Tinder, Bumble, and many other dating apps is designed to make you feel like you've won something, and winning typically does flood your brain with adrenaline.
"It’s not just the apps that might influence how people use a dating apps or whether they will be susceptible to the addictive components, but also other factors such as people’s personality characteristics," Dr. Apps are simply playing off of people's inherent psychology, and not everyone will be enchanted by the flashing lights. Timmermans' research found that people who score high on narcissism in personality tests are more likely to use Tinder to boost their egos.Give people any indication that you took part of their control away and they're likely to do what they can to get it back.