Dating someone with cancer
The thing is, you could date someone healthy who gets hits by a bus, or has a stroke, or gets diagnosed with a major illness after you are well into the relationship. So i think what you need to evaluate here is how strong your attachment is to her, and how you think you would respond if the worst case scenario occurred and she starts to decline.I think if you are in a relationship it is pretty awful to leave someone when they are terminally ill, so you have to be the kind of person who could stick out a few years of potentially bad times with her, and stay with someone who may be dying.I have taken care of loved ones who are terminal and it is no picnic, but at the same time i wouldn't hesitate to stay with someone i loved thru anything.
But above all, be honest about your feelings with her.
But on the other hand, I don't feel like I have the right to try that and decide it isn't working for me.
I would just hate to reject her because she is ill. Yes, but it's not entirely fair for someone with a terminal illness to date someone and expect them to take on that burden. But just understand that you do not have to continue a relationship with a terminally ill person who had that knowledge before you started dating.
However she has survived longer than normal, she is coping well with the treatment it seems.
I know she is receiving top-notch care, and they say cancer is no longer the death sentence it use to be.However I made the statement without fully comprehending the severity of her illness (being only hours after she told me).